I have grappled with writing about this week’s subject . . .
Hmmm, where to start. Well as my grandmother used to always say, “Scotty, just start at the beginning and EAT.”
A close friend and I have been sharing a journal on our dating experiences. We started it to better understand what we are thinking as we meet different people and how this affects our thoughts and our actions. It has been an amazingly revealing exercise.
I know it sounds a bit kooky to do something this. Remember though, I was trained as a social scientist (and he is a psychologist). Experimentation is how we learn about the world around us. However, we are often reluctant to turn that focus inward, into a personal exploration. So, my friend and I got over this fear by collaborating.
The unintended consequence of this collaboration and sharing is openness to relationship possibilities I did not expect. And in fact this “opening up effect” (let’s call it OUE for short, so I can sound scientific and posh) has spilled over into all areas of my life.
I am a pretty open guy. Some would say too much. However, I have discerned a notable shift in my lack of guardedness since starting the journal.
I do not believe it is a coincidence that this has helped my heart to open up even more to unexpected possibilities . . .
So you may ask, “Why are you grappling with this subject? It all sounds great!”
Well, all this openness has meant that I met someone quite extraordinary. Someone unexpected. YIKES!
I wonder if we have all met innumerable ‘someones” but we are often not open to the possibility. What do you think?
Well I cannot speak for you, but I say . . . BRING IT ON!
Heck if it does not work out I can blog about it and you all can help me to cope, right? You better!